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hello i just wondered why does most people like to assume that gay life is just sex sex sex sex when did that impression about us (the gay ppl) came to existences that all what gay men want is having sex and more sex why when i meet a nice guy he gets all horny and freakie on me like seriously why cant the Egyptian gay men just be normal and just dont get so horny and like that and why does horny str8 men wants to fuck gay men ?!! like seriously dude just because u cant get urself a girl dont get horny on some guy i hate guys who r not gay and not bi and just str8 but still they want to try sex with guys time after time after time just face it man maybe u like guys if u like fucking them so much im sorry about my language but really wanted to let it out Gay Relationship DOES NOT mean just SEX!

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f4
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    It's a known stereotype about gay men. Just the kind of stereotype, like "all gay men are girly" or "all lesbian women are masculine". Testosterone, makes u horny. And guys have a lot of testosterone.

    The "obsession" of sex is different. Women experience tremendous pressure to refrain from promiscuous sex. If a woman has many sex partners, she’s labeled a slut or a whore. If a man has many sex partners, he’s labeled a stud – and his (gay) buddies might give him a high-five. Sexual promiscuity among men isn’t as taboo as it is among women, and in some ways, this gives men a mental green light, like GO FOR IT. And when you have two men with mental green lights together, well… there’s no brakes.

    The male gay community is HIGHLY sexualized and based on conquesting bodies, this is according to me extremely depressing and f*cked up. But I don't think it has to do with being GAY and a MAN. It has to do with being a MAN. Even straight guys act like this, with women or with men (as u wrote).

    • 17-24_m_f_h4_f3
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      i dont know im gay and a man but i never was that horny i guess it just different from one to one but the fact that the gay community is sooo sexualized really pisses me off really annoy me

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    • 25-34_f_w_h1_f4
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      I agree with you, it annoys me as well. Hate the feeling of being on a "meat market"...

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      its just nt healthy to build ur entire relationship on sex really

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f4
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    And about why straight men have sex with gay guys: here are some reasons which is found in article I read.

    - Acting out early-childhood sexual abuse: This is also known as "homosexual imprinting." These heterosexual men are not homosexually oriented. They do not sexually desire, nor are they aroused by, other men. However, they compulsively reenact childhood sexual abuse by male perpetrators through their sexual behaviors with other men.

    - First sexual experience: Sometimes heterosexual males experiment with other males sexually, usually in adolescence and/or young adulthood (up to age 25), for the experience or to satisfy curiosity.

    - Availability/opportunity: These straight men have high sex drives and are sexually aroused easily. They connect with men for physical sexual release, which can be quick and easy and allows them avoid having to emotionally engage.

    - Father hunger: These are heterosexual men who crave affection and attention from their fathers and seek sex with men as a way of getting that male nurturance and acceptance.

    Narcissism: These are straight men who are self-absorbed and have a constant need for attention and acceptance; they use sexuality with men to be worshipped and adored.

    Read the rest here if you are interested:
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joe-kort-phd/why-some-straight-men-are-romantically-or-sexually-attracted-to-other-men_b_3670740.html

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