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Can a homosexual person be homophobic?

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I know your first thought is probably "wait...what?!" and then you would go on about how crazy I must be however I have heard more than once of couples breaking up because one of the partners feel it is "Haraam" (forbidden by God) and some go to the extent of abandoning and distancing themselves from any non-straight friends and acquaintances.

I'm sure religion isn't the only reason, some people are so scared of their family members finding out that they abandon their boyfriend/girlfriend when the relationship gets too serious and in this case force themselves into heterosexual relationships.
So what do you guys think? Can a homosexual person, be male or female, be homophobic?

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  • 25-34_m_w_h1_f4
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    yes absolutely. not only can it happen but it seems to be quite common. my ex was like that even. internalized homophobia is a big cause of homosexual breakups. it can also happen for many reasons. "peer pressure." fitting in. and religion as you say can play a factor too but not always. also, jobs and careers. some people need to be married with kids or theyre not seen as professionals. i knew several people like that. i feel bad for them because theyre lying to themselves all their life. i dont know if they will ever be happy living a life like this. homophobia took over their life and consequently, their happiness. forever.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f4
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    Of course. All of us are affected by the different patterns and structures in society, which means basically, we live in a patriarchial, homophobic and racist society. So all of us are affected by it, even we who are a part of different minorities. Racism exists among people who aren't white. Sexism exists among women. Homophobia exists among lgbtq-people. As the other user mentioned, it's called "internalization". We copy the language, behaviour which society has taught us - like I can be a self-hating homophobe even if I'm lgbtq, because I've been taught this my society in different ways, my family, friends, media, the state and so on. Being aware of different discriminatory structures in society is a good way of changing these thoughts and assumptions....

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  • 25-34_m_f_h1_f4
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    he or she are not homophobic, but from society, from the Big Secret about his/her relationship

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  • 17-24_f_w_h3_f4
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    Have you ever heard of something in psychology called "projecting" ? it's basically fearing a certain quality so much that is within you that you start cursing it and feeling angry towards it and accusing everyone of having this quality and hating on them so hard. This is why it is possible that a homosexual religious person would be homophobic.
    However, there is another reason for homophobia for homosexuals .. I have this friend (lesbian with Gender Identity disorder) who is very homophobic towards gay.. weird huh?
    By time, she told me that this kind of hate towards gays is because they have this gift (being a guy) and they don't have to work hard (getting surgeries and hormone therapy) to become a man and they are wasting it away. This is how she explained her homophobic feelings towards gays.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h3_f1
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    They can sexist, racist, conservative, crazy religious!

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f2
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    Its very common to be that way and I speak from personal experience, my internalized homophobia has affected me for years and years and probably still is.
    The reasons are mentioned and the only way to fix It is maybe to finally except ones sexual orientation

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