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She's straight, I'm Bi but i seduced her and it worked and we started dating and now I NEED HELP

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Well i'm a teenager , so is she . We're classmates , we met this year , she's not like me at all but we really liked each other , she's super straight and obsessed with boys and she had a boyfriend ( they've been together for almost 3 years ) but i don't know how it worked with her . We talked all the times and we became really close and i told her about me being bi-sexual and she was totally okay with it , in fact she started flirting with me , she's really amazing and very interesting .

One day i went over to her place , now thats when it all started we were sitting really close in bed we were cuddling and eating and having fun just like a couple . Her boyfriend was really jealous of me and asked her to stop talking to me ( he's really childish ) but she didn't want too she told me she would break up with him for me , she told me that she loved me the same way she loved her boyfriend and whenever she thinks about loosing me she starts crying , she also told me that i'm the first girl that she has ever cried for , anyway since we talked about everything there was this time when we talked about kissing , she loves kissing and making out and that stuff , she said she wanted to try and kiss me and i said okay .

We kissed over and over and we really became like a couple and once she called me her girlfriend that's when i knew i wasn't single anymore so she broke up with her boyfriend and we were dating for almost a month but then she cheated on me with an another boy ( she was in love with him and their families are really close and they visit each other so much , they were dating and he ignored her and they had many problems because of distance and they broke up and the last time his family visited hers , they kissed ) if you're wondering how i found out , she told me and i told her that i never want to talk to her again , but she called me 2 days later and we decided to become friends again . So yeah now i'm stuck with many feelings , a broken heart and i don't know how to act around her but i want to get her back and i'm sure it will work if i give it a try .
So any advices ? what should i do ? please answer me cause i really need help

sorry if the story is too long but i had to write it all x).

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f1
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    She cheated on you and I can tell you for sure that there is not much of a point going after her - you deserve better. She's confused about her sexuality and till she figures that out you'll just continue being dragged into her mess.

    You seem very hurt and not ready for a friendship at this moment and that's OK. There's no right or wrong way to feel about anything. So put yourself first, make yourself a priority and if you feel being friends with her is too difficult or impossible then accept that you cannot be friends with her. Let her know how you feel and say good bye.

    If you feel you can be friends and just friends, then go ahead and give it another go with boundaries that you'd apply on any other friendship. But don't stay with anyone with the hope that they will change their mind - that always ends badly.

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      Thank you for your advice

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  • Ah honey, this is why you should never try with girls that you know like guys because it becomes an endless loop eventually and she'll never be 100% into you as a love interest or a girlfriend all the time as she originally fell for guys and doesn't seem to want to stop so yeah good luck with that I know you're stuck now so just go with it and see how it ends but next time make sure to never fall for a straight or even bi girl (those are just for fooling around nothing more )

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      There is nothing wrong with falling for a bisexual person. If there is then it's with your insecurities. It's wrong and really offensive to say that bisexuals are just for fooling around. It's ignorant to assume that just because they may go for either gender that they must be promiscuous. In the end, we are all people trying to find our ways and have no right to judge anyone.

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      There is nothing wrong for falling for a Bi. however you simply will have to mentally prepare yourself for such situations because trust me, they'll happen! same as how for gay people that its impossible to switch off their feelings for same sex we cant force Bi's to switch off theirs for the opposite sex so unless someone understands how bisexuals are exactly, they better stick with gay people like them if they can't understand it fully. I myself had a bisexual gf before, and we're still in touch from time to time however i never failed to understand that she'll always love guys as well hence it never hurt me or upset me but i'd be lying if i say it did not bother me sometimes so unless you're ready for such an experience and to shut your "jealousy" off then you better stay away or not get too serious. Not all people are the same you know

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      Like I said, the problem is with your insecurities and not the sexuality of your partner. If, for instance, you are dating a bisexual and she cheats on you with a guy, are you going to blame the cheating on the fact that your partner cheated because she is bisexual or that she cannot be in a monogamous relationship because of her bisexuality? You are basically enforcing a stereotype that makes the hurts the bisexual community and for a homosexual to do that, homosexuals who constantly struggle to not be stereotyped, it's a double standard, really. That said, what is wrong with being attracted to both sexes? You may not understand it but if you're in a relationship with a bisexual the quality of your relationship will depend on you and her and will have nothing to do with her bisexuality, and if it does then whatever her sexuality, it wouldn't have worked with her anyways whether she was bi, gay whatever.

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    That's totally true

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  • 25-34_f_w_h1_f2
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    This relationship is clearly poisonous, so don't drag yourself more into it.

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  • Sweetie, she cheated...and that's about the worse thing to do when you're in a relationship. And think about it, would it be okay if she cheated with another girl instead?
    Doesn't matter who she cheated with, she did. Don't put yourself in a situation where she has to choose either you or him. cause she told you that she cheated hence her choice is clear. So try to move on, getting her back is not a good idea.

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