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are gays\lesbians hating bisexuals ?

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i want to hear your -gays and lesbians- opinion about bisexuality , do you really find us - bisexuals - a greedy people who just want to have "all the pleasures" ? find us a confused people ? or may be you thought we are gay\lesbian but too shy or coward to admit it ?

i write that , because i found many gays\lesbians from "more open countries" hate bisexuals !!

actually they give hate speech more than straight people.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    I think gays and lesbians dislike or don't prefer bisexuals because of their own experience with them . Similar to women who write men off as 'pigs' because of their past relationships, even though not all men are pigs.

    I think those that dislike bisexuals is due to their own insecurity. They may feel like they could never be enough, because that person might always feel a lack of the opposite sex, something which they cannot fulfill.

    I have heard lesbians say they don't date bisexuals because the bisexual could later on leave them for a man. But what I would say, is that a bisexual, like myself, could easily leave a lesbian for another woman! So it has nothing to do with being bisexual.

    From a bisexual point of view, I could care less if the person I love and cherish is a man or a woman. I'm more attracted to the soul, than the genitals.

    Just like lesbians and gays can't help being attracted to the same sex, we bisexuals can't help being attracted to both. Some gender may be more attractive than the other, it's rarely black and white.

    Sexual orientation is much more fluid than what we traditionally thought.

    So there is no 'making up our minds'. We are how we are. Perfect and complete, created by a perfect God.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    If we were to suppress our bisexuality and label ourselves lesbian or gay, we would be lying to ourselves and to you.

    Homosexuals also tend to label bisexuals as 'confused'. And that may or may not be true. In fact a Homosexual can also be confused. I've seen many Homosexuals ask for help on lgbt forums because they suddenly found themselves attracted to the opposite sex. Confusion is something anyone, regardless of orientation, can experience.

    A bisexual can be confused... If they FEEL confused. A confident bisexual is in touch with their sexuality and has experienced both sides of the spectrum. Bisexuals in their early questioning phase, can yes, be confused.

    When any lesbian or gay person first realized their sexual orientation, you can't tell me they were 100% sure at the time. They must of at least questioned it, perhaps even dated the opposite sex to 'make sure' or 'be normal'. What about the straight people who get hurt in relationships with Homosexuals when they are still figuring it out?

    My point is, pain and rejection cannot be blamed on bisexuals alone.

    And just because we can 'choose' to live a straight life, doesn’t mean we don't go through many of thr same negative experiences and oppression as Homosexuals do.

    It's just not fair to label us as confused and turn us down without seeing what we have offer. We just might be your soulmate.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    Those bisexuals who are confused at first, are confused bcause society, and the lgbt community insist we only like one gender and that we have an either straight or gay label! That's where the confusion arises.

    Enough with all the labels!

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  • 17-24_f_w_h2_f3
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    as a lesb i do like bi cuz when woman prefer a woman than a man ( well , that'll clearly be a love ) bi see the soul not the body honest lovely girl can make bi to love her , can even make bi to leave her bf for her and never to leave her . even for gays its the same and could be stronger .

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    Thank you! First lesbian on ahwaa to have a positive attitude towards bisexuals (that I know of).

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  • 12-16_m_f_h2_f1
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    Will i am gay. And i have some gay girls as friends ..and we did talk about this once and we all agreed that bisexual is a person who dont have probelm in haveing relation with any gender but its always about sex.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    There are some bisexuals who are purely sexual towards the same sex. But there are bisexuals who are homoromantic as well.the thing is, we can't treat sexuality in black and hite, but as a spectrum.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    There are some bisexuals who are purely sexual towards the same sex. But there are bisexuals who are homoromantic as well.the thing is, we can't treat sexuality in black and hite, but as a spectrum.

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    I don't get it why they are facing a problem I mean u can still marry have kids and have sex Its like having two options and if u picked one will be happy.

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  • 25-34_f_w_h2_f3
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    Its a problem when you fall in love with the same sex (like friends). It can also be a problem for our straight partner to accept our bisexuality. it's even more of a problem when gays don't take us seriously if we want to date them . It's a problem when everyone keeps second guessing our fidelity just because we have the *possiblity* of being attracted to the same gender. The problem is the discrimination bisexuals experience from the gay and lesbian community. just because we can 'choose' a straight life, doesn’t mean we are straight or as accepted as straight. We don't choose who we fall in love with.

    No bisexual is attracted to each gender 50/50. For example, i find women more attractive than men, but that doesn't make me a lesbian, because I still percieve men as a possible partner and have some attraction towards them. And that doesn't mean i can't be satisfied with one gender partner.

    Let's not compare tragedies here. This is an lgBt support forum, not LGT.

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  • Hot in bed but not ideal for a LTR

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  • 51-65_m_f_h1_f4
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    meinzurich........................i do not understand u??????what u mean hot in bed

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