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Coming out to my sister.
It's only a matter of time. But when? Is there a right time for these things? Should I be strategic, perhaps?
A little background first: My sister is very open to the idea of homosexuality. But only if it's fiction. To her, people choose to be homosexuals because if not then why would it be forbidden in Islam? I don't think she'd be uncomfortable having a gay friend, but only if that person didn't share our faith and/or culture. I don't blame her. It's the society we've grown up in. I know that she needs to get used to the idea of homosexuals existing in the Muslim community, that's it's not wrong and that in the end we're all humans and just the same.
Thing is, I need her. I talk to her about everything, except this. And there are times when I feel like she is the best person to talk about a certain issue but then I can't because I'm scared of outing myself to her. I'm absolutely terrified, actually, but I really want her to know. What to do? .
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What I think is that you should, yes, be strategic and take this slow. But also, it sounds like you're very close to her and that you obviously need her to know this. So I don't think it's a matter of educating her or anything. I don't feel it's necessary when it's your sister (from how you described her), I feel like she'll be there for you and understand your situation.
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Sometimes I wish she would find out accidentally, which would be really bad I know. I am being very gradual with this, but on the other hand I just want her to know. I can only hope she is understanding.
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I wasn't quite lucky when it came to my sister.
She found out around midnight when I had just graduated from 12th grade. I was writing an extensively long email to a friend. It had a few things about being queer and all. I left the computer to get something, didn't expect anyone to be around. It was my sister. She read it.
You know the misunderstanding they have about it being a phase and all.
A few weeks later, after the crisis happened, she asked if the phase had passed. I said yes.
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Do you ever think of coming out to her? I find myself in a similar spot. I'm not sure if it's worth losing her over this.
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I did think at some point that I'd want to. I no longer see the point to do so. Why should she know? Why should anyone who sees it as an expression of lust know? I think I'll end up keeping it private for as long as I have to.
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Well, in that case, her believing what she wanted to believe was an advantage. And you know, if you need to talk about anything, we're here.
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