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I just wanna do it
I grew up in KSA. When I was younger I was sexually abused by someone close to me. As I grew older and realized it, it made me mad. I was very sexually restrained here since communication with women is almost impossible. So, I ended up convincing a kid around my age to do it. We exchanged favors so to speak.
I like to give and not to get. I don't like hairy men. I only like young white feminine petite kind of guys and I do it to get what I want. I have a lot of encounters with women and I enjoy it. I have been to college in the west .... Just some type of guy I like. I have had more women than men and the men I had was just to do it. What does that make me? Just greedy or what?
Do you think being sexually abused turns you gay? Or somewhat gay? Or do we all just wanna do it and have preferences?
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I think that it is sociologically well-established that sexual abuse has an effect on a person's sexuality, often arising in the form of fetishism or promiscuity. I don't see it as implausible for some degree of homosexuality to manifest itself in this way.
At the same time, I don't think it so much provides the origin of sexual particularities as it does alters or encourages them. All human beings, from a very young age, have degrees of sexuality that manifest itself in many ways. Even very little children if left to their own devices will experiment sexually with one another, and will be more inclined to do so if exposed to things of a sexual nature from older individuals, either in the form of abuse, accidental exposure, or just apathy.
If I may be so blunt, there are likely ways in which the manner which you were abused manifest itself in your own sexual preferences, either circumstantial or regarding roles. Your brain likely has strong mental connections with that early intense exposure to sexuality. Whether or not your homosexual impulses *specifically* are a result of that, I certainly am not qualified to say, and even a trained psychiatrist is unlikely able to tell you of a certainty.
If I were to venture a guess, however, the insatiability of your sexual appetite, as it were, seems likely to be somewhat grounded in that early experience, and from reading your post I'm guessing in your personal reflection you even have suspected as much yourself, which is as strong an indicator as any.
However, I don't want to give the impression that others who have not been specifically abused don't have frequent and exceedingly urgent sexual impulses, or that fetishes and other tastes don't arise on their own, quite the contrary. Sexuality is, frankly, weird. It's a crazy mix of social, sensory, instinctual and chemical information which tends to manifest itself in urges and inhibitions, not all of which make any damn sense to the outside observer or even necessarily to the person experiencing them. Sometimes it tells us downright silly stuff, like that we can't be attracted to someone if they're not wearing kinky boots or don't have a certain hair color.
Basically I can talk your ear off about this stuff all day but I can't answer the question for you, I can just give you stuff to help you in your own investigation.
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i think it has something to do with it, yes. it's not unusual for sexual abuse to lead to traumatic reactions to a certain gender, or a preference of another. how do you feel about relationships though or do you only just want to do it for your own pleasures? haven't you been committed to a single person before? do you feel your history may cause some fears with regards to this kind of attachment?
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According to a famous psychologist, sexually abuse scars your brain on the basis of measuring emotions. ideally your limbic region. what did you do actually, maybe to others are selfish, but as for me, it is just a mnifestation of your traumatic experience which you project to others by abusing them for sex favors without you realising that you are just abusing them.
cure for this matter, is you. you need to realise your mental state and your own well being. being in a comitted relationship can help your well being in check, and somehow in times you can project all your indirect abuse maybe into something less, i.e you develop a longing for a better partner and maybe life.
Acceptance is the best way to start. meditate through your life..
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