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I have known and accepted for quite sometime that I'm a lesbian. It was after the disaster that was me falling for my best friend.

She loved me back and I know I wasn't the only one feeling. But then she fell for a guy and it was like a stab in the back. Upon reflection, I think she may have freaked out. I know I did. I refused to accept the nature of my feelings, to admit that I was jealous. I behaved terribly and things ended badly.

At the time, all I had known was that I wanted her to be mine. But my what? It took me a few years to figure that out. It was only after that I was able to forgive myself and move on.

Can anyone relate to this? .



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    Samir82
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    Of course, this is an incredibly common experience. My first ever relatioship ended just three weeks later and he got married within that same year. To say it was hurtful is an understatement. You really can't do much to change a situation like this, so just have confidence in yourself and the fact that you will soon find the person who will appreciate you for who you are. Know that you deserve better.

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    Edel
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    It's good to know that you realized that you needed to forgive yourself. I have many times confused that with wanting forgiveness from the ones I had wronged. We're humans and we make mistakes, so no one really is in a position to judge the other.

    And believe what Samir said. Someday you'll find someone who will love you and stand by your side through thick and thin.

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    lmirna
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    It seems so impossible now, the idea of me meeting someone and having a life with them. Sometimes, I feel like the world will probably end before I do.

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    Samir82
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    Imirna, everyone feels that way at some point in their lives. The first step is to always love yourself before expecting anyone else to. Try to enjoy your life and the right person will come along. Always think of what's possible. No one can predict the future, no matter how unlikely some things may seem.

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    lmirna
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    Learning to love myself... That rings true. I do have issues with that and I'm trying. But as far as meeting someone, I guess I'll just have to wait. My friend says that I shouldn't look and I think she's right but then again there seems to be no place to look. For the sake of my sanity, I'll believe the last thing you said. The future can not be predicted, no matter how unlikely some things may seem.

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    Why does your friend say you shouldn't look?

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    BlueS
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    I don't want to seem nihilistic or so, but it's not an easy road. Things move on, but for my case the feelings are still around. I did get around to being in a relationship recently. It has been going longer than I have expected, maybe because we're both very honest about our past experiences, and what we feelings we still have.

    Things do move on, there's no denying that, even if the feelings remain. These feelings and memories are elements of what we have learned over the years. The important thing about all this is that we learn from those experiences.

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