My new years resolution is to have sex!
Hello Guys this is my first post here, I just turned 20 last month and I'm still a virgin, I had about 2 online/phone "relationships" with 2 guys that I met on Facebook, but never took it to the next level because there's always that fear of rejection, shame and just fear itself. I want to take it to the next step but I'm too much of a chicken to go ahead with it.
Thoughts like "What if he doesn't like me if he saw me" are always dominant when I try to go forward with a relationship I just hate myself because I just end up masturbating to get all that sexual frustration out but I want to experience a mutual sexual fulfillment with a person that I'm attracted to. Can someone help me on how I can overcome that fear?
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This is very normal and we all experienced it in the beginning. What helped me overcome my fear is being in a relationship. When guys would flirt back with me that was a big indicator that I was ready for love and relationships. Then when I finally found 'the one' (my ex but 'the one' at the time) I knew that we both felt the same about each other so it was clear sex was the next step. I didn't feel insecure like I did before or have any doubts. If you ask me sex feels better when it's someone you know and trust, it's important that this feeling is mutual so that no one takes advantage of you. Remember also that it's extremely important to make sure you're having safe sex. There are lots of resources online to help guide you to safe sex.
I attempted to have sexual encounters that got rejected and I had many experiences of unrequited love too, this was okay. They helped me become more mature and to find the type of guys I am most into. It's hurtful but you get over it. Just be yourself, be accessible and the right person will come along sooner or later.
Good luck Adel!
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just think about to whom you gonna tap your virginity to ok.. because losing a virginity to a twat is worst than losing it to someone who loved you at first and in the end it dont stick (it happens)
Sex without the passion and the feelings are like good old fashion masturbation.
Anyway, best of luck Adel. the moment you cross that path you bound to lead it on and pave a new one.. just dont make stupid choice
and as an activist and philanthropist for ILGHRC (int. lesbian and gay human rights comittee) and PTF (pink triangle foundation) play safe, play smart and have fun- use condom with lube (not oil based ok hunny)
hoping to hear from you again!
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